What happened to homework?

September 3rd, 2010

I know the school year just started, and it's a little early for me to be ranting about the public school system (again for those who know me well).  Sometimes, though, the schools and teachers bring it on themselves. 

My son and a friend were hanging out one evening after school and my son's friend announces "Middle school is great!  Way better than elementary".  He is one year older than my son and this is his first year in middle school.  He announces that his teacher told the class that homework is class work that didn't get done in school.  He went on to say that his teacher said that they wouldn't have any homework because they would get all of their work done in school.

My son was thrilled.  "Cool!" 

I was horrified by this discussion.  I was thinking to myself "What happened to homework?"   No, really.  What happened to homework?  What kind of foolishness is this?  How are they supposed to be preparing them for high school or better yet college?  In college they are going to be expected to have the self discipline to go to class then go home and do the assignments.  You don't do assignments in class in college.  Are these children being set up for future failure?

Stuff like this makes me want to scream.  I like homework.  Beyond providing supplemental opportunities to learn, homework promotes a better work ethic.  I want – no I NEED my kids to understand that sometimes you gotta work a little harder.  Sometimes you have to work at times when you don't want to, when you don't feel like it.  And they have to be self-motivated.  When they grow-up no one is going stand over them and help them get out of bed and go to work in the mornings.

It seems like this is a position of convenience for the teacher.  If she doesn't assign homework, then that's papers she doesn't have to grade – work she doesn't have to take home at night.  On one hand, no homework makes my life easier.  I frequently bring work home at night, and with an evening routine that can include the gym, getting dinner, extra-curricular activities, baths and bed – getting homework done and reviewed is often a struggle.  However, it is a matter of priorities.  Homework has priority over all of that (except maybe dinner).  On the other hand, doing homework helps me reinforce that work is important and comes before play.

The longer my kids are in public school, the more reasons I find to be dismayed.  Could someone please reinstate homework?

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Wednesday’s Word

September 1st, 2010

I was intending to write about something else today, but I was surfing the web on my lunch break and happened upon this great article "When We Waste Time, We Waste Money."  It's something we all know, but they took the time to calculate how much some procrastination can really cost in dollars.  When you think about it in terms of money, it puts things in a whole new light – especially in today's economy.  So today's Wednesday's Word is Procrastination:

Pro-cras-tin-ate (verb):  1) to defer action; delay  2)  to put off until another day or time, defer, delay

I tend to put off household chores which causes mental exhaustion everytime I look at a pile of laundry or dishes.  I've even put off some of the things in the article.  Sometimes you just need to see something in a different light to realize how it can impact you.  I can do better.

 

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Women and Healthcare

August 19th, 2010

I recently read an interesting and informative article on women and health care reform (posted below for your reading pleasure).  It is true that women have historically and will continue to take the lead on the health of our families .  As such, we need to take a greater role in not only educating ourselves on the recently passed healthcare legislation and what options it provides, but become more involved in the shaping the legislation that affects us so profoundly.  Your thoughts?

 

 

Women Will Steer the Fate of Health Care Reform
By Dora Calott Wang, M.D.,
Author of The Kitchen Shrink: A Psychiatrist's Reflections on Healing in a Changing World

As mothers, daughters, wives and leaders of households, women often steer the health care choices of families. Thus in the coming years, women will also be a major force toward implementing health care reform and the landmark Affordable Care Act.

Whenever we enroll a child into newly available health insurance, whenever we convince parents to get mammograms or colonoscopies that will be free under Medicare in 2011, each time we appeal an insurance company's denial of care, or when we choose health insurance in new marketplaces beginning in 2014 — we will be helping to shape the future of health care in America. In fact, much of the ACA depends upon the actions and choices of patients, with women often taking the lead.

Many ACA laws are already in effect. For example, nursing mothers in most workplaces are now entitled to time and private space to pump breast milk for a child's first year of life. Did you ever think the feds would mandate this? It's a new era.

The ACA's main goal is for nearly every American to have health insurance. New opportunities are already available, and uninsured members of your family may qualify. If someone in your family has been denied health insurance because of a pre-existing illness, check out the new "high-risk pool" insurance plans available now. Log onto Healthcare.gov to find local options, and get your loved one covered. Medicaid has been expanded, so someone in your family may be newly eligible. By September 23, you can insure your children under your own health plan until they are age 26, and insurance companies will have to accept all children under age 19 with pre-existing illnesses.

Patients (and the women often guiding them), might possibly exert the most influence on health care reform through two important ACA measures — appeals processes that should be in place by Sept. 23, and the new health insurance marketplaces in effect by 2014.

In the words of President Obama, the ACA aims to protect patients against the worst abuses of health insurance companies. The ACA provides many safeguards against insurance companies denying coverage. Yet the devil is still in the details when it comes to holding insurers more accountable toward paying for care. To fight against insurance companies taking our premiums, then trying not to pay for medical care, the federal government is cracking down on fraud, waste and abuse. The ACA eliminates life-time caps on health insurance benefits, while mandating that insurance companies now must spend at least 85 percent of their dollars on medical care, rather than on profit and administration.

We the public can do our part to keep insurance companies honest through new appeals processes which should be in place by Sept. 23 for new insurers. If you feel your new insurer is unfairly denying care, or is stalling on time-sensitive care, you will be able to appeal to the insurer itself, but also to an external review process. The ACA leaves it up to individual states to institute these appeals processes, but the federal government will hear grievances if state processes are inadequate.

These appeals processes will be an all-important aspect of health reform — which will be driven by patients making appeals, and therefore reliant upon all of us.

Another crucial step is that by 2014, we can shop for health insurance in new exchanges offering comparisons between different plans. So if we see an insurance company hiking rates by 70 percent in one year, for example, or if an insurance company has a reputation of not paying for care (yes, this will still happen under the ACA), the new exchanges will offer options. Collectively, by choosing insurance for our families, we'll determine which insurers succeed or fail, and thus shape the landscape of American health care.

The lady of the house has always had a large role in steering the health care choices of her family. Now with the new Affordable Care Act, the actions of women on behalf of their families will collectively shape the future of health care in America.

For more information about the ACA and its timeline, log onto the excellent website, Healthcare.gov.

© 2010 Dora Calott Wang, M.D., author of The Kitchen Shrink: A Psychiatrist's Reflections on Healing in a Changing World

Author Bio
Dora Calott Wang, M.D., 
is Assistant Professor of Psychiatry at the University of New Mexico School of Medicine. A graduate of the Yale School of Medicine and the UCLA Neuropsychiatric Institute, she received her M.A. in English literature from the University of California, Berkeley, and has been the recipient of a writer's residency from the Lannan Foundation. Her memoir, The Kitchen Shrink:  A Psychiatrist's Reflections on Healing in a Changing World was published by Riverhead Books, The Penguin Group.

For more information please visit www.doracalottwang.com and follow the author on Facebook and Twitter.

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Wednesday’s Word

August 18th, 2010

I couldn't pick a single word for today's Wednesday's Word post.  There are too many things going on and too many issues vying for my attention.  I've been thinking about what I'd like my state of being to be (as opposed to what it is).  Today's Wednesday's Words reflect those things I want and need to be most.

Prayed-Up Joker-Free  Focused At Peace  Rested  Productive  Protected Blessed

 

Have a happy Hump Day!

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Back to School Shopping – Part 1

August 17th, 2010

I'm baaaack!

I won't make any excuses for my absence, but it feels good to be back.  It's so easy to get out of the habit of doing something (like going to the gym – another thing I've let lapse lately.  So I'm recommitting myself (in more ways than one) to the things that bring me joy and help me keep my sanity.  So with that, let's just jump right in.

I went back to school shopping last weekend – just focusing on the school supply list.  I could rant on the list alone for hours…like why does my daughter need four boxes of crayons? or dry erase markers, or multiple boxes of Kleenex?  Ok – before I digress, I decided to put together a list of "Keep Your Sanity" back to school shopping tips.  These have nothing to do with saving money – it's all about surviving the madness. 

Diva and Mom's Back to School Shopping Tips:

  1. Go without the kids.  This may be difficult, but it's key.  It is hard enough to wade through the multitude of parents, without having to deal with trying to find the Justin Bieber notebook or TinkerBell pencils or some other nonsense. 
  2. Focus on one thing at a time.  I decided to spend a day focused soley on the school supplies.  We'll get to back to school clothing on another day.  This just keeps life simple.
  3. Make a list.  Is anything else needed here?  It would be horrible to spend hours huntilng down stuff and get home and realize you forgot something or worse to waste time picking up random stuff only to realize you didn't get what you needed or you bought what you didn't need.
  4. Avoid the high-traffic stores (like Wally World – sorry Walmart).  It is so crowded, the stress levels alone as parents comb through the aisles looking for the stuff on the list is a nightmare.  I've decided that it's ok to spend 30 cents on a folder at Office Max  that would have cost 25 cents at Walmart.  Keeping my blood pressure low is definitely worth it.  If you can keep your sense of humor, Walmart is always good for people watching and a laugh though.  Otherwise, go somewhere else.
  5. Don't shop on tax-free weekend.  First of all, the stores have been running back to schools specials all month, the savings of the tax is not enough to offset the real throngs of people that will be out on tax-free weekend.
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